Biological Time Bombs & Cougars

by guest blogger Savannah George of

The other day I was chatting with a friend whose father was in his 40s by the time she was born. That got me thinking…with a time frame on our baby-making years, we’re really just hostages of our own fertility. It’s not the biological clock; it’s the biological time bomb.

Meanwhile, men like Charlie Chaplin are having children at the age of 73, while the average American woman is having her first baby at age 25 and experiencing menopause symptoms as early as her 30s! So, I propose a theory: Women would have more fun if unbridled by their fertility.

In fact, that’s why we’re seeing the rise of “cougars” or women age 35+ who are in relationships with younger men. The majority of these women are victims of their biological time bomb, having children and too many responsibilities too young. Consequently, with the divorce rate at an astounding 50%, these women end up single and living out their repressed youth later in life.

For example, one of the most notorious cougars is actress Demi Moore, who had her first child at the age of 26. But, by age 38, Moore was divorced from the father of her children, Bruce Willis. At the age of 43, she remarried Ashton Kutcher, 15 years her junior.

In 2007, stylist Tameka Foster was 36 when she married singer Usher who was 14 years younger. The two split last year.

Now that we know the driving forces behind a cougar, it’s easy to identify cubs in training. One person who fits the criteria perfectly is Kate Hudson. Hudson became a mom at the age of 25 and was divorced by 27. Now she’s become know as a “maneater” or “serial dater”. As time passes by and Hudson matures, we’ll likely see her boyfriends staying the same age.

So, what can we do to avoid the biological time bomb? I’d like to think identifying the problem is the first step to solving it. While we can never beat the clock (with exception of freezing our eggs), being aware that life is not a race but a marathon will set us on the right path to fertility freedom. What do you think? Is it different for women-of-color?

Photo: Usher and Tameka Foster before their breakup last year.


Tiffany said...

My friends and I are always laughing saying that we are cougars in training watching what not to do from most of these women out here now. We call ourselves cheetahs because we are faster, lol.

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Unknown said...

Really women can have kids safely up until 45 if they are healthy. I don't know what the rush is for some women. Take time, enjoy life, have a career, meet your soulmate, get married, then have a children. po

Unknown said...

Hi, ladies! I think a lot of us would LIKE to get started with our families earlier, but don't feel we're ready until certain things are in place. So many tough decisions when it comes to career and family, right? Thanks for dropping in. LOVE the comments.

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